Most of you know from reading my blog that for the most part I'm pretty PG about the whole thing. I want anyone from my nieces and nephews, godchildren, parents, in laws, and siblings to visit and not be offended. (I've got other places to offend people) :-) So it is with a little hesitation that I share the following - but I do it for a reason.
Being polite and trying to reason with people does not seem to work with certain people. I will of course continue to try this tactic but once in a while you just need to get pissed and I'm just about there.
True storey - two weeks ago Kent and I went to southern CA for a football game. While we were there I managed to get my hands on a NO on 8 yard sign. We went to the downtown Santa Monica Farmers Market and I walked through the entire market up one side and down the other with my yard sign high in the air. For the most part people either said nothing or showed support. One guy however called me over and started asking questions - at first, he can across as if he had genuine questions and did not understand the issue. We talked for a few minutes and it's when he told me that I had a disease that I had to walk away. I am tired of walking away - there is a population that there is no reasoning with. So to you Mr. "you have a disease" - I say FUCK YOU! This goes out to you and all those like you!
I found this, written by some guy and I just had to share it.
To all you folks who voted Yes on Prop 8...Fuck you.
Yes, I'm talking to you. I'm done being polite about this, about pleading my case with civility and discourse.
Fuck your arguments about children, education, or "activist judges", because it's about none of those things, and you know it. You hide your bigotry behind lies and political rhetoric.
Fuck your argument that the only good family unit contains a mother and a father. I was raised by a single, awesome dad, and I turned out pretty fucking great. Fuck you for marginalizing my childhood.
Fuck your arguments about the sanctity of marriage, my partner and I have been together fourteen years, what makes your marriage more worthy of state recognition? Spare me the lecture. Or, make divorce and quickie weddings illegal, too.
Fuck your arguments about the history of marriage, learn its *real* history, which is hardly confined to the last few centuries of Christian belief. If the church didn't want this day to come, they should not have let the government take over marriage. But since they did, and since government should treat everyone equally, we are here now. We're not the concept of marriage as it stood three hundred years ago, we are here, right now. Act like it.
Fuck your argument that it's about freedom of religion, which only proves that it's a clear violation of the separation of church and state. How would you like it if I voted on your religious rights, too?
Fuck your arguments about the "slippery slope" it would create, in either marriage or democracy. Give society some fucking credit for having a modicum of common sense. A sudden wave of marrying dogs and widespread polygamy won't happen, and you know it.
Fuck you when you say that civil unions should be enough, because separate but equal isn't equal, and you know it.
Fuck your excuses about the will of the people, because sometimes all that amounts to is mob rule, especially when that mob is created through fear and lies, religious dogma, and massive out-of-state funding.
Fuck you for saying "oh, please understand that *my* personal decision isn't driven by religious beliefs or moral propriety," because underneath it all, it most certainly is... and if you're dancing around that issue to justify your vote some other way, you're in denial.
Fuck you for saying "some of my friends are gay" and still voting yes, because it doesn't hide your bigotry. Your actions are your words.
Fuck you for making me a second-class citizen. Thankfully we have a President now who acknowledged my existence as a Gay American in the first few minutes of his acceptance speech. Maybe, in time, his efforts at unifying this country will be successful for all of us, gay and straight.
I don't always agree with Andrew Sullivan, but he had a great post tonight that said "We must never let popular votes affect our own internal sense of our worth, our equality, our dignity as human beings. Our marriages are real; all that is at issue is whether a majority will recognize them in law. The next generation already does."
Kent and I came very close to getting married when we were recently in California - just days before the election. We decided not to for two reasons -one, we wanted to share the event with family and friends - two, we never thought 8 would pass. I'll forever regret this decision.
I can't wait for the march on Saturday!
Jim
Ignorance is a disease and it really is a disease of choice! It amazing me that anyone would choose to be ignorant. Maybe we should pass a law against ignorance!
ReplyDelete